如何不让话语伤害你?

发布时间: 2012-11-21 17:02   来源:
关键词: 英语


How to Not Let Words Hurt You

“You’re fat.”“你很胖。”
“You’re ugly.”“你长得很丑。”
“Is that the best you can do?”“你就这点能耐?”
“You suck.”“你真差劲。”
The echoes of what someone else has said about you keeps repeating over and over in your head.  That’s all you feel and think about all day. Your day is ruined.Has this ever happened to you?
别人说过的话总像回声一样,不断地在你的脑海浮现。一整天你都昏昏沉沉,不断胡思乱想。你的一天就这样被毁了。你身上也发生过这种事情吗?
Were bound to meet people who hurt us  被人伤害在所难免
During our lifetime, we meet all sorts of people. But not all of them end up being our friends. We all have different values and principles, so when we meet someone who differs in terms of viewing life, there’s bound to be conflict.
一生中,我们总会遇见各色各样的人。不是所有人最后都会成为我们的朋友。我们有不同的价值观和处事原则,所以当我们的人生观不同时,摩擦在所难免。
You may be caring too much about what others think. 你会很在意别人的看法。
This is the issue which a lot of us suffer from. We constantly care about what others think . A lot of us do not like to be judged and we worry about the image we’re portraying to others. It may sound like a legitimate thing to do, as we do live in a society where we’ve to play by the rules, otherwise we may be shunned upon.
很多人都遇到过这种事情。我们总是在意别人的看法。大多数人都不喜欢被评判,都在意自己留给别人的印象。我们必须要遵守一些社会规则,否则就会被冷落。当然,出现这样的事情也是合情合理。
However, how much is too much?
但是,多少才是过分呢?
That is why the words which come out from others’mouths hurt us. We let them hurt us. And there’s no point in that when it comes to our emotional well-being.
这就是为什么别人话总能伤害我们的原因。我们让那些话来伤害我们自己。只要我们还在意别人的看法,那么谈情感健康就没有什么意义。
 
How to not let otherswords hurt you  怎样不让别人的话来伤害你
These are the steps I take to making sure I don’t get hurt by others . It may not be the perfect solution, but the way I see it, they are the basic tips which, when applied, can actually surprise you with the results you want.
这些是我保证自己不被他人伤害的窍门。或许不是什么完美的解决方案,但依我看来,这些都是最基本的解决方法。一旦使用,就会出现意想不到的效果。
Replace it with a positive thought  用积极的心态取代它
When someone insults you or say something which you completely disagree with, it keeps repeating in our heads over and over. The reason it keeps going through in our heads is that, more than not, we are taught to deal head on with it. We are told to rationalize it, reason with it and even analyze it…which ends up being an ironic cycle as you passively deal with the thought, which is harming you in the first place. Replace the thought with a more positive one. It could be a good memory, an optimistic view of the future or some cool scenario you’d really like to live. Maybe you’d call that wishful thinking, but if they’re just mere thoughts, why use negative ones and let them ruin your day?
Don’t let the hurtful words of others take control of your mind. Your mind is your mind, so control your thoughts and cheer yourself up.
当有人诋毁你或者说一些你根本不同意的事情时,它会在你的脑海里不断的浮现。之所以会在我们的脑海不断浮现,常常是因为我们强迫自己去处理它。当你被动地去处理那些最先伤害你的言论时,你会强迫自己对号入座、解释它甚至分析它。。。然后形成一个有点讽刺的循环周期。用乐观的心态代替消极的胡思乱想。可以是一段美好的回忆,也可以是对未来的美好向往,或者是你神往的一些炫酷场景。你也可以回想那些美好的愿望,既然它们都只是一些纯粹的想法,那么为什么要让消极的想法毁了你一天的好心情呢?不要让他人伤害性的话语掌控你的思想。你的思想就是你的思想,能掌控的只有你自己,让自己打起精神来。
Retort their words  反驳他们的话
A lot of times people’s words hurt us because we did not do a thing about it. We didn’t retort and make a stand for ourselves.
很多时候,别人的话之所以能伤害我们,是因为我们什么也没做。我们没有反驳,也没有为自己打抱不平。
You may think, “Oh I just didn’t want to cause trouble,”or “It just wasn’t worth it”. But you may not realize that you’re simply repressing yourself. And when you’re repressed, you feel a void. That’s where the hurt comes from.
你也许会想,“哦,我这样做只是不希望制造麻烦,”或者“它一点不值得反驳”。但是你可能没有意识到,你仅仅是在压抑自己的情绪。当你被压抑的时候,你会感到空虚和低落。这就是伤害的源头。
To not let others hurt you, you ought to stand up for yourself and make a retort when you disagree with what they say. Trust me —it will make you feel a lot better when you express yourself. You will at least know that you did your best and everything you could against things you disagree with.
不要让别人伤害你。当你不同意别人的话时,为自己站出来反驳。相信我——当你替自己辩解的时候,感觉不错。最起码你知道自己努力过,并且为自己不同意的事情反驳过。
Avoidance 逃避
The problem here is that people always have an excuse to why they hang out with people they don’t like. Some people hang out with people they dislike because of their job or they don’t want to come across as petty. The way I see it, you ought to take responsibility for your own life. You may have your own commitments, but it doesn’t mean you can’t make the effort to surround yourself with positive people, which is something people forget.
现在的问题是人们总有借口去解释自己为什么和不喜欢的人交往。一部分人是因为他们的工作或者他们不想小题大做。依我看来,你应该为你自己的人生负责。你应该有自己的原则,当然这不意味着你可以不努力交往一些能给你正面能力的人。这一点是人们经常忘记的。
So forget about commitments or living up to expectations for a second. Change your surroundings instead and get positive people along. It will make a difference and people aren’t going to be saying hurtful things to you.
所以有时候我们会忘记自己的原则或者辜负自己的期望。试试改变一下周围环境,交往一些能给你正面力量的人。这么做不仅效果显著,而且人们也不会再说伤害你的话。
Getting hurt by others’words is a very common issue all of us face in life. Unless you’re extremely positive in life and totally focused, it’s hard to not let others bother you. Hopefully these tips will help you .
被别人的话伤害是我们生活当中经常要面对的问题。除非你对待生活的态度非常积极并且完全专注,否则很难不让别人烦扰你。希望这些窍门能帮到你。
 


  


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