发布时间: 2016-09-06 14:06   来源: 北外网院
关键词: 职场宠儿 内向外向 证明自己 北外网课




They listen


While the gift of gab is good for preventing awkward silences in social settings, listening is every bit as important as talking-perhaps even more. It's amazing how much we can speak without really hearing what the other person is saying. Introverts have the underrated ability to sit down, pay attention, and actually remember what others tell them.


They reflect


Having some quiet time allows us to think back on things we could potentially improve or have done better. When we're constantly projecting outwards, we forget to look internally, even though reflecting is the only way we actually recognize our past mistakes and grow from them to be better people.


They remain calm


Even if only in appearance, introverts have the ability to exert extreme control over their emotions. Maintaining calm in the face of emotionally demanding situations shows that they are well prepared for whatever may come, which is a valuable asset regardless of the environment.


They are humble


Quiet humility is, almost inarguably, one of the most powerful things someone can have. Confidence that doesn't need to be excessively touted is very appealing to employers and friends. People love to surround themselves with those who exude positive energy. If you're an introvert, chances are you've already learned how to channel your inner confidence to beam subtly; your humility has no problem shining through.


They make meaningful connections


When we make less small talk, we speak a lot more about things that actually matter. Digging beneath the superficial is how we achieve true intimacy-and what's better than forging a relationship with someone who will actually be there for you when life doesn't go as planned?



Be Courteous 讲礼貌

Day in and day out, it's the small things that kill our spirit: The sales rep who empties his cold coffee and leaves the splatters all over the sink. The manager who uses the last drop of lotion and doesn't refill the container. The analyst who walks away from the printer, leaving the red light flashing "paper jam." The boss who walks into the reserved conference room in the middle of a meeting and bumps everybody out for an “urgent” strategic planning meeting. The person who cuts in line at the cafeteria cash register. The guy who answers his cell phone and tries to carry on a conversation out loud in the middle of a meeting.


As a result, even the smallest courtesies kindle a fire that ignites chemistry and builds kinship. The courtesy of saying "hello" when you come into the office after being away. The courtesy of letting people know when you're going to be away for an extended period. The courtesy of honoring policies about reserving rooms, spaces, and equipment for activities. The courtesy of a simple "please", "thank you", and "you're welcome" for small favors.


Share a Sense of Humor 分享你的幽默感

No matter whether people agree or disagree with George W. Bush's political positions they typically admire his self-deprecating humor. At one of the Washington correspondent's dinners, that ability to poke fun at himself seemed to be the primary thing the media responded to favorably. Bush said at the lectern, "I always enjoy these events. But why couldn't I have dinner with the 36 percent of the people who like me?" At one such event, Bush even brought along his "double" comedian Steve Bridges, to make fun of his frequent mispronunciations. The double modeled for him one of his most difficult words to pronounce correctly, "Nu—cle—ar proliferation … nu—cle—ar proliferation. Nu—cle—ar proliferation." Then Bush tried it, "Nu-cle—ar pro-boblieration." The crowd went wild.

不论人们是否认同布什的政治立场,都会敬佩布什的自嘲式幽默感。在一次华盛顿记者晚宴上,拿自己开涮的能力似乎成了媒体正面报道的主要素材。布什在讲台上时说:“我总喜欢这类活动。可我为什么不能和喜欢我的那36%的人共进晚餐呢?”在一个类似活动中,布什甚至带来了他的“替身”喜剧演员Steve Bridges来拿自己频繁读音失误开玩笑。这位“替身”模仿了布什最难说对的词:"Nu—cle—ar proliferation … nu—cle—ar proliferation. Nu—cle—ar proliferation."接着,布什试了试:"Nu-cle—ar pro-boblieration." 众人都笑疯了。

Self-deprecating humor can open hearts and minds to make people receptive to ideas in ways words alone cannot.


Show Humility 谦卑

Just as suddenly as lightning strikes, an act of arrogance can destroy an otherwise credible communicator. For example: Refusing to acknowledge people when they speak to you. Failure to respond to people's suggestions. Haughty body language. Time spent only with those of your "rank and ilk" at a social gathering. An amused smirk in response to an idea expressed in a meeting. An upward roll of the eyes meant to discredit someone's comment in the hallway. A talk jam-packed with jargon meant to confuse rather than clarify. Insistence that things must be said one way and one way only.


Credible communicators show humility in innumerable ways:


▪ ▫ ▪

▣ They let others "showcase" by delivering key messages instead of always having to be "on stage" themselves.


▣ They let others feel important by "interpreting," "passing on," and "applying" their goals and initiatives.


▣ They get input from others -- and consider that input worthy of a response. (They don't ask for input "just for drill" if they don't plan to consider it.)


▣ They excite others by asking for their help, cooperation and buy-in.


▣ They share the limelight by telling stories about star performers.


▣ They share leadership roles by telling success stories of other leaders.


▣ They communicate awareness and appreciation of the efforts and results of other people.










院长信箱: yzxx@beiwaionline.com      合作信箱: hezuo@beiwaionline.com

Produced By CMS 网站群内容管理系统 publishdate:2021/02/01 10:46:01